1. )Never talk about yourself more than your date.
You should try to be interested in what your date has to say. Sure, you may not find the conversation interesting, but the facade of interest is a plus. If you give a wrong answer, she could be offended by what you say. Also, avoid describing your “great” day, your “excellent” grades, or anything “cool” about yourself to your date. Your experiences have probably taught you that girls like to be heard, but not listening to others. Bragging about yourself would not aid you in your date as much as listening to your date would.
2.) Keep your cool during a conversation from start to finish.
There is no need sweat out your words. Stumbling through answers does not leave your date with a high opinion of your ability to hide something.
“The man must not be nervous,” said sophomore Hyunwoo Lee. Keep calm during an interrogation, and do not let your emotions get ahead of your thoughts during a question. Expressions of shock, nervousness, or anger could trigger a negative response from your date. Also, refrain from moving constantly. Fidgeting gives the impression of nervousness and awkwardness. Shifty eyes and a tense expression (no smile, no frown) portrays that you do not want to be with her.
3.) Never ask about her family
Avoid asking about her family and who they are. It might be uncomfortable for her to answer, since family secrets need to stay family secrets. It is best to start the conversation by asking about her interests and hobbies. Humor can also a key factor for encouraging conversation; it eases the tension and awkwardness between two people. Whatever you do, though, do not even attempt a cheesy joke. “Girls don’t always like our jokes, and they could be offended,” said junior Christopher Rieger. In other words, just make sure to watch your mouth.
4.) Never to try to impress your date.
Among the many ways to impress your date are playing the guitar and speaking French fluently (without a French accent). Two methods not on the highly regarded list are being a “know-it-all” and attempting injurious stunts. A guy who attempts to be a “know-it-all” doesn’t attract the female crowd. Give just enough information to sufficiently answer a question, and do not overextend your reply.
“It’s ok to sound and be smart,” said junior Sean Siouty. A second approach a guy should not do is to have a crack at “Jackass”-style stunts that they have never attempted before. Those who do not succeed (and it’s usually a lot of people) discover two lessons: one, even if it’s a shot at impressing your date, learn to follow the warning before every single “Jackass” movie, and two, you just ended up making fools of yourself. Your date would feel embarrassed, and it would be surprising if she was not worried.
5.) Do not constantly check your phone.
“A guy shouldn’t be playing or texting on his phone during a date,” senior Keshav Lalchandani said. When a girl asks a question and doesn’t receive an answer, you seem rude and distant. If you have your phone out, they might snatch it away to draw attention to your rudeness. In a worst-case scenario, some girls might be obsessed with their guy and immediately switch to “paranoid” mode. She would start continuously asking questions about the people who you are texting, who do you have as contacts, etc. Sure, you might think that it is an nosy habit, but it will remain a constant part of your relationship if you don’t leave your phone alone starting from the date number one.
6.) Do not undress, overdress, or dress strangely; dress naturally.
“Do not dress strangely” means to dress the way you usually dress. One reason for why your date became attracted to you may be because of the way you dress. For example, don’t show up to a date wearing beach shorts. She might think you’re going to the beach right after the date (without inviting her), and she will assume you have another date right after her. Your clothes give different impressions to your date. For instance, if you dress casually, you will give the impression that you are off doing regular business. Mismatched or dirty clothes gives a hurried impression. Though you do not have to wear a suit (a necessity for formal occasions) on a date, your date will believe that you really are trying hard to be the best you can be for her. You are probably not a neat freak, but at best, try to dress nicely.
7.) Do not look (and smell) like you have slept in a Waste Management dumpster.
Junior Ryan Cosgrove said,“A guy should groom himself i.e. trim nose hairs, clip toe nails, etc.” There are many possibilities to prepare yourself for a date (many of which do not involve trimming nose hairs); however, it is a good idea to brush your teeth and gargle some mouthwash. A clean mouth equals a clean breath. Even though you might arrive a little late for a date, it is always a smart idea to take a quick shower. Some girls judge guys by how clean they are (weird, right?). There is always a chance that your girl might possibly forget that you were late if you smell nice. If you do not have time for a shower, use deodorant or cologne (maybe even Febreeze, but try not to get it in your eyes) to cover up the smell. “Don’t overdose on cologne, just enough to smell nice,” said junior Christopher Rieger .
8.) Never order your date around.
Girls prefer when both the boy and girl hold equal authority within a relationship. In such a relationship, things should run smoothly: both would have an equal say in every matter, and both would respect each other’s decisions. However, ordering your date around can fray the ropes of friendship; eventually, she will start giving the cold shoulder. If it is so simple of a task that you could do it (i.e. grabbing a paper that fell to the floor), then do it yourself. Imagining her opinion or response helps; if you really know your date well, you would know what she likes to do and what she doesn’t. If you really want her to do something, ask nicely in the form of a question.
9.) Don’t Try Too Hard To Be Romantic
Sappy words, flower bouquets, and an endless string of expensive gifts are examples of the many objects that could embarrass your date. A couple of small yet neat presents should suffice. Avoid giving ridiculously expensive presents. Your date might think that you are just trying to flaunt your wealth. Never give a present to her every single day. In your mind, you might be doing something romantic, but in her mind, your actions are a little over the top. There is also always a danger that the girl might become used to the gifts and develop a knack for only expensive presents. That will cost you/your parents a lot of money.
10.) “Never seriously say ‘I love you’ unless you really mean it,” said junior Sean Siouty.
Just three words–”I love you”–can change a couple’s perspective of each other. Normally, the phrase “I love you” doesn’t actually apply to a relationship unless if the guy is ready to commit. Nowadays, most teenagers use “I love you” in a sarcastic manner. From time to time, you have probably seen a couple of your friends say, “I love you” to one another, yet you know they are acting sarcastic when they make goofy heart symbols. Assuming that you have been on a date before, you would realize that “I love you” sounds. If you do marry her, then you have reached the “game over” point of your innocent youth.